This week’s Taste of Torah highlights the book of Genesis 49:15-20. Joseph had generously cared for his brothers and their families for many years, allowing everyone to thrive. However, when their father, Jacob, passed away seventeen years later, the brothers were consumed by fear, thinking, “What if Joseph harbors resentment and seeks revenge for the wrongs we inflicted upon him?”

Their hearts were so heavy with guilt that they devised a plan to ensure Joseph would continue to show them kindness. In response to this distressing display of insecurity, Joseph was moved to tears and reassured them with compassion that he would always provide for them.

Is there any value in holding onto guilt and shame over the years? Absolutely not!

At the heart of Judaism lies a profound principle that invites us to rectify our wrongs—no matter how daunting—and move forward. This principle served Adam and Eve after their transgression in Eden and guided the children of Israel after they strayed with the golden calf. Likewise, it can empower you!

Here are the means to liberate yourself from unproductive guilt:

  1. Articulate your wrongdoings: Clearly express to G-d what you regret and acknowledge your mistakes. Hearing your own voice helps release the burdens that weigh on your spirit so you can let them go once and for all.
  2. Make amends: Take steps to apologize sincerely to those you’ve hurt, offering restitution where it’s possible. If forgiveness isn’t granted immediately, persist by trying two more times (after which you are free from obligation according to Jewish law).
  3. Increase your generosity: Give more charity than you’re accustomed to. Acts of charity heal not only the world around us but also nourish your own soul.
  4. Transform your actions: Compensate for past mistakes by striving for improvement—be kinder in your interactions and commit yourself to learning more.

As we embark on this New Year, I urge you to embrace a fresh beginning!

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yonatan Hambourger, y@tasteoftorah.org

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